Supporting a Mom Who is Having a Planned C-Section

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Recently I had the opportunity to support a gal who was having a planned c-section.  At first, I wondered what I would do to support her so we just let the support evolve as the pregnancy progressed.

To begin, we looked a good practices for good positioning for baby and for good posture for mom so she felt comfortable throughout the pregnancy. I gave her a couple of rebozo sessions to take the pressure off of her back.  We looked at exercises to do for good health throughout pregnancy. I shared links with her with specific exercises and yoga for pregnant women.  We looked a good nutrition as she was diabetic.

I shared a book from my doula library about what to expect in a c-section.  This helped her formulate questions for her doctor and gave her good information around what to expect.

We talked about birth preferences such as skin to skin and delayed cord clamping that could happen even in the operating room.  I answered questions from personal experience about the healing process after the c-section in terms of incision care and good healthy practices like walking after surgery so gas doesn’t build up.

Early in the pregnancy, her hubby wasn’t sure he could “do” the surgery part and it looked like I would be the one supporting her in the OR but I gave her good reasons why he should go in and she convinced him.  He was really glad he decided to do this!

After the baby was born, I headed up to the hospital to offer postnatal support.  We talked about breastfeeding and got the baby latched on.  We talked about good nutrition for breastfeeding mommas and how important it was to keep him nursing and why he would NOT need formula (this was offered by the hospital).  We looked at the comparison of size of baby’s new born tummy and that was a surprise to mom.

I have checked in with mom on a couple of occasions since she went home to see how things are going and all is well.

I believe she was happy with the support offered in this situation and I would definitely do this again. I think all mommas need support and a doula can be helpful even in a planned c-section.

The Tuck In Ceremony

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In order to warm the momma after being open, raw and cooled both mentally and physically, during birth, we can use warm, soothing baths and wraps with deliciously warm rice and lavender bags.  Finishing off with firming belly paste and a bengkung belly wrap.  I had the opportunity to offer one of my moms this service.  When she was all tucked in after her bath and belly rub, her comment was, “I will just stay here for a while.  I am SO relaxed!”  Music to my ears! I am happy to offer these services should you be interested.  See our fees section for possible packages you may be interested in.  What a great idea for a shower gift for the mom who has everything!

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We have been busy!

We have been busy new doulas over the summer!  Not only are we doing our reading, writing and collecting of data, we have been attending births in order to get to our certification.

AND, we have been taking advantage of a variety of learning opportunities that will improve our service for all of you new mommas.

First, we took the rebozo course.  A rebozo is a long shawl that can be used in a variety of ways to offer comfort to the momma during labor.  This versatile tool was used a a blindfold to give the momma some darkness and focus at my last birth.  I have used it to support the belly while the momma is sitting on the ball during contractions.  I used it as a pull in the bathroom while the momma labored on the toilet.  I have used it to do the lovely double hip squeeze during contractions.  I have offered it over to dad either on his own or with me at the other end during contractions.  I used it to sweep over the momma’s head and back for a treat during labor (she loved that!).  At any rate, this has become a regular tool during labor for both of us.

Next, we took the Step 2 Breastfeeding course.  This course was invaluable to learn the mechanics of breast feeding, the stand of the World Health Organization on breastfeeding, and problem solving for new moms. This is the same course all RNs take at “Breast Feeding Friendly Hospitals” like the Grey Nuns.  All staff must take this course to get that label!

Then we thought we wanted to give full service so we took the online Sacred Pregnancy course on Bengkung Belly Binding (please see our link on the menu to learn more about this).  We vowed to care for the moms as an artist of Sacred Postpartum care.  We now can offer the belly bind and the belly firming paste and are the proud displayers of this seal:

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Then, not to sit still, I (Brenda) took the Sacred Pregnancy course to learn about hosting two day mini retreats for pregnant mommas.  These two day retreats will promise to offer mommas opportunity to dig deep and learn about body image, fear release, creating sacred space, nutrition, honoring, as examples of the many topics throughout the weekend.  Watch our website for future weekends.

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Finally, I (Brenda) am completing the Full Mother Roaster (or warmer) course with Sacred Pregnancy.  This course will give me tools to support the momma in the postpartum period and includes the belly bind, plus tuck in ceremonies and many recipes and herbal tinctures or mixtures to support healing for the momma.  I look forward to sharing new found information with new mommas.  Please see our menu for information at a later date along with fees for services.

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Our goal is to offer you a peaceful passage from belly to birth.  We look forward to holding this sacred space for you and your babe.  For information about Sacred Pregnancy see www.sacredpregnancy.com

The Blessingway

I was honored to have the opportunity to host my first Blessingway in August.  We have all been to a baby shower where the focus is bringing gifts for the new baby.  While the gifts are welcomed and needed, the focus is on the baby.  The Blessingway focused completely on the momma’s journey from maiden to motherhood.  Women gather together to honor, celebrate and offer support for the momma in this journey.

During this time together, each woman brought a meaningful bead that was shared to create a birth necklace for the mom.  Each woman also brought a written blessing, wish or prayer for the momma.  Every participant commented on the power of the evening.  This powerful “tribe” of women lifted up this young mom and promised to support her in this uncharted journey.  We finished the evening with pampering of the mom including hand massage, shoulder and head massage and an herbal foot soak.  The “icing on the cake” was the henna painting of the momma’s glorious belly.  We couldn’t leave dad out so he prepared the feast for all and it was delicious!

If you are interested in honoring a momma that is in your circle, feel free to contact me.  I would be happy to help plan, create invitations and ensure all was ready for a powerful evening of honoring the momma with all of her favorite women!

Enjoy the video of a Blessingway:

Contact me if you want more info.